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Peach State says: Always Be Prepared!

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The silliness of the Dr. Seuss “Swiss” Knife faded after first glance. Reality of the multi-purpose extensions and their uses popped into view as a delightful explanation began to almost explode in my my brain. The humor of the tools, brought to mind in the whimsical picture, brought a smile to my face as I began to see myself as the Swiss Knife and my arms as the extensions.

There are days when everything goes right,
You go to bed and sleep at night.
But there are days when nothing is right,
Chaos galore…it’s such a sight!

On the days both good and bad,
Many things happen of this I am aware.
I hold my head up…try not to get mad,
My confidence building..Always Be Prepared!

A Plunger in one hand,
A Spatula in the other.
Life in our family band,
Someone is always calling “Mother”.

Loose screws, bolts and lugs,
I am ready for what may come.
Overflowing toilets and flying bugs.
With creative solutions…amazing for some!

Refereeing and keeping the peace,
When tempers start to balloon.
I simply pull out my special piece,
The one in the drawer..they call it a spoon!

Added features for wiping the tears,
Hold it together with tape for the duct.
A helping hand and listening ears,
Together we will maneuver the muck!

The young ones are now older
And help others…I’m glad.
They’ve become great extensions
Of mom and of dad!

The tricks to get through
The toughest of days,
They can now move
Through life’s chaotic maze.

There are days when everything goes right,
You go to bed and sleep at night.
But there are days when nothing is right,
Chaos galore…it’s such a sight!

On the days both good and bad,
Many things happen…your heart may tear
Just hold your head up…try not to get mad
Your confidence building..Always Be Prepared!

This was inspired when I saw the picture above. The arms of a mother are often varied in reach and in job. We are wiping noses and giving medicine while doing homework with and cooking dinner with another. You may think so this concept as silly…but it is true. Mothers multitask without knowing it…it is second nature! We find solutions to life’s interruptions while trying to maintain a calm existence. When we adopted our youngest the older boys were well on their way to helping others. He did not understand how they could help much less why! If it is broken he thought it was thrown away. We have been trying to teach him some things can be fixed. Storms would down trees and cause damage…the boys were there helping make repairs. Carpentry..tiling…most home installations have been performed by my husband and the boys if not just the boys. “I hope they leave me their number when they move out…I need a cheap repairman!”

If things don’t work right…I am always there with suggestions and how-to advice. This knowledge comes from growing up doing household renovations with my dad. I started off holding the directions for my dad…then learned to read them so he could focus on the task. We installed windows along the back of the house as a family…”It was interesting at first but then we got the hang of it.” We have to be flexible…in time, need and importance. The teaching or passing down of this knowledge is essential and becoming a lost art. The skills I learned from my parents I have been passing down to my sons. My husband has taught them to work on cars…so brakes and alternator repairs are easy repairs for them. They know how to shop wisely and often look for the best deal for the money. The years ahead will be filled with trials and financial difficulties. As parents we must prepare our children so that they can function and succeed in the years ahead of them.

The boys saw their list of chores as punishments and ridiculous waste of time when they were younger. They have started seeing how the simple concepts have prepared them to function as adults. “I was beginning to worry!” The independent spirit of “Do-It-Yourself” has grabbed hold of my the three oldest. One is a Watch Repairman and works full time…another is a Landscaper and Handyman which keeps him relatively busy. My oldest…he is learning to stand on his own…remembering all we taught him and finally using this knowledge. They each have special abilities and strengths that will be needed.

Consider for a moment the historical concept of community. You had certain people you went to for a particular need. Blacksmiths for shoeing a horse…seamstress for the making of clothes…butcher for meat…etc… The ability to lay tile and flooring, take down a wall or build a wall, design a yard and maintain a yard, take apart and repair a watch, build and rebuild computers…these are just a few of the abilities my sons have learned and boy…has it come in handy! The Swiss Army Knife has many different uses in one handy package. It is ready to help and assist at the drop of the hat. Simply pull out the extension and proceed with your job. The boys usually had their knives with them…”Close your mouth…they are slightly redneck southern boys!” If something needed cut or resized…”Here Mom..I got it!” they became one of my extensions in my Swiss Army Knife.

We all have strengths and weaknesses…you just need to know who to call for their strength when you are weak. Be Prepared in the little things and the larger, out of control situations will be controllable. Basic skills are the foundation! The ability to do more than one thing at a time gives you eyes to see a bigger and brighter picture. We must learn to Always Be Prepared!

I apologize for any bragging or self-absorbed speeches. I just found myself caught up in the swirl surrounding the concept of the Swiss Army Knife and felt like every device was being pulled out to use at the same time. “Kinda reminds me of the hectic pace in our family!”

I hope you read this and find something you can take away with you…even if it is just a smile or two!
Have a great day!

Peach State

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Peach State says: My Recurring Patterns?

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Today is Friday and I found myself not thinking about Current Events. Instead I found myself going through a preset, habit formed, group of functions. I find it curiously comforting as I take a closer look at this routine. There are differences…but only slight ones…with interruptions thrown in!
The endless spiral of events, that connect my actions as I flow through the daily motions, are structurally needed. You will probably notice a similar pattern in your own life. So…here is My Recurring Patterns!

Alarm off
Put on fuzzy socks
Head for the coffee pot
Check Facebook
Check Chat
Check email
Check Swagbucks
Check Blog
Respond to early risers on Facebook messenger or text
Fix lattes and breakfast
Training of 11 year old on correct behavior
Check blog
Check Facebook
Start laundry
Load or unload dishwasher
11 year old to bus stop
Start the daily blog
Pour coffee in travel cup for husband
Continue blogging
Respond to messages and text
Complete blog post for the day
Check Facebook
Conversations with friends
Move laundry
General cleaning
Check blog stats
Get other two sons out the door for the day
Fix another latte
Check Facebook
Play music (sometimes to learn music)
Focused cleaning
Move laundry and fold clothes
Respond to texts
Check blog stats
Plan dinner
Move or fold laundry
Check blog
Check email
Help with homework as I cook dinner…

By now you are sitting there shaking your head…don’t be to quick to judge! You have your patterns too! This list would be far shorter and would not be filled with check blog and Facebook if it weren’t for convenience of my type of phone and iPad. They are always with me and I can quickly maneuver the familiar apps and pages with little time spent. The delightfully unique and personalized chimes and tones associated with each notification add music to my day and keep me updated as I move through the average housekeeping duties. At the push of a button I can be instantly aware of Facebook changes and texts as well any calls I may have not been able to answer. “I am actually doing things that cause me to miss phone calls…or texts!”

I must confess that the act of checking my blog stats has been filled with excitement and anticipation. I was thrilled this past week to find my daily blog post listed as a “Featured Post”! I surpassed the previous records this week and just can’t help but watch the numbers increase each time I check the stats.

“I would like to thank each of you for your likes and views…and those of you who now follow this Blog…you put a smile on my face and brighten my day!”

My daily life, as average as it is, contains many out of the ordinary tasks. The adoption of a Special Needs child, the economic upheaval with our family owned small business, the activities surrounding my singing in various groups as well as the continued ups and downs of life, as experienced by my three older sons, are the center of my structurally routine existence. I may not conquer the business world or find a cure for disease but, I am happy! “I have my low points just like everyone…yet…I am at peace in my little corner of the world!”

We each have those habits and ways of doing things as we go through our day. From the morning wake up call to the setting of the alarm at bedtime we are engaging in the same routines as we care for our families. The order may be different but there is a pattern…a general consistent flow…that is the basis of you daily scheduled life. We may not consider the little routines as important but we would be wrong! These little connections with family and friends keep us current and offer us an emotional boost as we continue through our pre-set day. This satisfies the basic need of belonging…we all want to be part of something!

Consider your day to the smallest activity. What do you find yourself doing when there is a pause in your schedule? I would make a guess you are just like me! It is now time to recheck my Facebook and catch up with those who are now starting their day. I hope all of the status updates are good for you and yours today! I am off to follow My Recurring Pattern!

Have a great day!

Peach State

Peach State says: Anchors of Friendship

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I wish you could meet me friends…they are the best! They are there when I call and there when I don’t. They lift me up whether I need it or not. They give me a reason to laugh and smile and share in my times of tears. I love my friends…they are my Anchors in Friendship!

First let me say that I have a group of within a group! Don’t shake your head…I have mentioned before that I have a strong core group of friends. With the love of cooking and sharing recipes to cleaning tips and hints to help in the raising of children…we all input guidance and knowledge. Isn’t this what friends do…no matter the situation. We share the funny and important stuff with those we care about because they may have a future need for the information we gave them. So let me break it down for you!

There is the group that I talk to occasionally. These are the ones I may talk to once in a blue moon because of distance. We talk and there is an automatic pick up where we left off mentality. We were close when we lived close to each other but…living across the country from each other can cause a few problems. Facebook has been wonderful with keeping the lines of communication open. Before we only had snail mail and phone calls.

There is the group that I still talk to from churches in the area. They are few in number and seem to evaporate after time. I have one I still see and talk to but…it just isn’t the same. (I have only been at three churches in the area…two of which were never really a fit)

This next group is the group with a group! Some of them have been there for the past 10+ years, since moving to this area, and have grown into the deepest, family replacing, type of friends. I could not go through my day without talking to them at least once. This little group has increased in the past few years to include new personalities that, to me, feel like they were meant just for me. “You know who you are!” (take a moment to give yourself a hug and know that I love each of you very dearly and keep reading)

There are days that the phone is attached to my ear…if we are not together in person. This is the group that we are talking on the phone with them as we walk across the parking lot or church building to see them. This group is centered around my church and my faith. We sing together…often break out into silly laughter together. ( Oh Where is My Hairbrush?) Sorry…I was just thinking about our recent time together and it brought a warmth to my heart. This group is consistent and supportive. They are my Anchors of Friendship!

The bonds this group shares is not an isolated occurrence. This type of friendship happens at churches and schools around the world. You may have a similar group that anchor you. When you feel like things could not be worse…they are right there for you…holding you hand and picking you up. They don’t ask for explanations…they just give you support and love! They are quiet when you are quiet and rowdy when you are rowdy. “We tend to be rowdy a lot lately!” The interesting thing about my wonderful group is the differing personalities. We are not of the same age group…they have not clue who my husband is but, would love him if he would give the opportunity to them. Backgrounds and life experiences are packed full of delights and tragic events. We are more alike than we may realize.

I am really a very blessed person to have this group of God given friends. I wish I could tell them how I feel…but…we are always to busy singing and laughing! The joy that flows from my heart when I think about them fills my day and eases the struggles that I encounter on a daily basis. “Some of this group understand the intricacies of my life.”

Through this group we have other friends with whom we associate with even outside church activities. We are really an interesting bunch of ….delinquents…no! That seems a little young and harsh…grapes. “I like that!”. I used to not understand that concept when I first heard my Aunt and Uncle talk about their group this way. Think about it for a second…always in a bunch…there may be some that are bruised and some not fully ripened and some that are just right…all together they are wonderful. They continue to grow and multiply and become a hardy, rooted plant just like friends. Anchors in Friendship are long lasting and true!

I hope you can take an opportunity to tell your friends how much you appreciate them today! Everyone needs to smile at least once a day! Until the next time…have a great day!

Peach State

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Peach State says: Middle Class Humor and Current Events

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My husband and I went to do a few errands, yesterday, on his day off. Fox News had been talking about the overnight jump in gas prices in Ohio…we did not know it was here in Georgia too! We drove into the gas station and the price had jumped 15 cents. He laughed and said “I guess I should have filled up last night when it was $3.63 a gallon!” The numbers began to spin around as if possessed! Click! My husband got back into the car…”Well at least I am no longer driving the truck!” It would be way over $75 to fill up and he uses almost two tanks per week. At least we have Middle Class Humor and Current Events!

I guess his stomach was growling because he asked where I would like to eat. We decided on trying out the new Panera Bread restaurant. We ordered conservatively: 2 sandwiches with chips, 1 orange juice and one water, and 2 cinnamon rolls. One of the cinnamon rolls was 99 cents! “They were for his dessert later that night.” The red flashing lights streaming from the register should have told us to run…”That will be $21….” My husband handed the girl, behind the register, the money as he choked back his shock and surprise. As we found a seat he looked at me and said $21…!” We were offered a free pastry due to slow service and my husband told me to select a pastry. “If we are going to pay this much for a meal we might as well get all we can!” We enjoyed our meal and time together.

We left and were headed to the local home improvement store to buy lightbulbs. We were driving down the road and headlines became the topic of conversation. They were not just any headlines…well you will see.

*In Lieu of a Summer Trip We Bought a Tank of Gas and Lunch at Panera Bread!

*Cost of Gas and Lunch Bankrupt Family!

*Who Needs Lightbulbs Anyway?

*Family Vacations at Local Gas Station!

*Vacation Destinations Now Include Gas and Grocery Stores!

I see families taking vacations and talking about their vacations on Facebook. They are going camping or visiting Disney and the some head to the beach. I would love to go to the beach house. It is relatively inexpensive except for the gas. I guess we just prioritize differently. A friend posted a picture on Facebook and well it gives us a good laugh…but could it be a true statement?

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Our boys are learning how to repair their vehicles themselves…they shop around for the best prices and replace the brakes and most recently an alternator. My 21 year old saved over $150 by replacing the brakes on his truck with his brother. “I think my husband may have supervised!”
My 18 year old had to replace his alternator this week and was immediately on the phone to the auto parts stores comparing prices. “I must have done something right!” I came home from church that night to see my sons under the hood with grease ridden faces and hands…and they were googling the how to guide. It took them several hours but they did it…and saved more money. After cleaning up they collapsed, proud in their accomplishment, and still had greasy faces.

I am old enough to remember my parents complaining about gas prices…I remember complaining about higher gas prices and the cost of living…and now…well we try not complain. We just make jokes! If we can’t laugh about our situation we will get more upset and stress out. We have enough stress today without fighting over the cost of gas. Cut back on trips…combines errands…do it yourself repairs…and don’t forget the lightbulbs while you’re out! Middle Class Humor and Current Events!

The politicians of our nation don’t feel the pinch in the wallet. They do not see the soaring prices the way we do. They campaign on the issues and against each other. If one comes up with a plan another will tear it down. Campaign promises are made and forgotten. They get back on their fancy buses and planes and move on to the next campaign stop. Maybe they do feel the pinch…with all the money they are spending for fuel they can’t afford the commercial air time!

Creative spending not splurging is the norm in our house. Oh..wait…I do splurge! I got a coffee at Starbucks the other day…with a free e-card! “I was worried for a second!” I have found that when I buy my “ginormous” (giant and enormous smashed together) bag of espresso beans I will get a free coffee…I earn Swagbucks and get e-gift cards for Starbucks…I love free Starbucks! Shopping wisely, cutting back, and finding deals are the way we live now. We sacrifice in ways to make ends meet! “Soap is soap…right?” I no longer get my specialty hand soaps with fragrances and colors for each sink in the house. Refillable soap decanters and over-sized containers of plain liquid soap will have to suffice. We all do our part!

Have your and your family made changes in how you spend? Have you changed the way you drive or the number of trips you make? Do you cut out coupons and pay attention to the prices? Do you get excited when you save money? Do you have or find Middle Class Humor in today’s Current Events? Please send me your money saving ideas and techniques! We need to help each other…after all…we all will need lightbulbs eventually!
Have a great day!

Peach State

Peach State says: The Best Potatoes

I told you My family loved that recipe! Yesterday I gave you a potato recipe and said I was teetering about fixing it. Well, I broke down and made time. It is not that it takes a long time to prepare; it is the time needed to prepare and cook while helping my 5th grader with his homework. I took a few pics and altered the recipe a little bit…

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I thinly sliced the potatoes

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Mixed the chives into the sour cream

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Added the white pepper…but only about half of the amount given in the recipe and then added a few shakes of a wonderful Roasted Garlic and Bell-pepper blend.

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Sorry…the metric conversion wiz was needing help and I forgot to take a pic with just the cream sauce over the taters.

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This is when you can put it in the oven or microwave…I chose the microwave.

I have a wonderful family who are a great help around the house. “Silly sarcastic tone slipped in..sorry!” I took some clothes upstairs and the boys decided to serve up dinner for me and tore into the dish before I could get a finished product pic for you. Needless to say there were no leftovers.
“Funny…I did not even use the bacon this time!” My husband bragged, on the phone how I slaved in a kitchen all day cooking dinner and baking. It was nothing! Oh…we had a Triple Dark Chocolate cake for dessert. “What diet?”

Peach State

Peach State says: The Best Things in Life!

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Each day we are told what we must have to be successful and happy. The new car, jewelry, that vacation resort package… But what about those of us who do not have the luxury to have those things. Why are we still happy? Not the superficial happiness but the deep down in your heart happy! “I know!” We have realized that “The Best Things in Life” are not things at all! They cost…your time, your love, and your care.

This is not going to be a “I’m am so broke” type of story. The truth is we may be able to do more but just choose not to. The various reasons for this are the schedules we keep and the children still at the house. I would love to go on a vacation! I have a beach house I can use anytime I would like to, within reason. “I may actually get to go this summer.” I don’t want the flashy jewelry…it could get lost working in the yard. The new car…okay…What kind would I like? I would love a new car…but I have a car to drive that is decent. This is about the little things we do for those we love…it does not cost a lot of money but can cost time. Making time is sacrificial any way you look at it but, the rewards benefit those touched by this time given. It is about taking care of each other! Doing for others…letting others do for you. Give and take is not equal but balanced. I guess I am on the receiving end right now. How do I know this statement is true…well…

Saturday night: My husband tried to wake me up after watching TV. “I sometimes fall asleep for about 30 minutes in the evening but for some reason I could not keep my eyes open.” It took him several tries to stir me. He has noticed a change in my sleep habits at night and knows that I do not get the rest I need. He put his proverbial foot down! You will stay home tomorrow and you and I will spend time together. You will not have any alarms set…complete rest…
When my husband notices my lack of sleep he begins to watch me. I have only learned this about my husband in the past 5 years. He makes light and uses humor as an excuse but, I know what he is doing. He has seen the wincing and painful looks cross my face and hide in my laughter. He has watched as my diet has changed as I confess I didn’t feel like eating.

Sunday: Well…no alarm set and I still got up early. “Not as early as I usually would on a Sunday!”
I made the coffee and our lattes’ and headed back upstairs. He told me he was taking me to breakfast…”Go get ready and I will take my meds.” We woke up the 18 year old to watch the 11 year old and left. It was a pleasant drive and since his returning to work our time together is definitely precious. After being seated the concern was voiced. It came down to his feeling I was overdoing it…pushing myself for others and forgetting about me. “I do that…that’s me!” I know I am not as young as I used to be…but that doesn’t mean I can’t still… “I was cut off!” I know you are in pain and it is from over doing it! It has not come from working at the house…he stopped knowing I knew he was referring to church. I have been involved in a number of projects that called for more physical brute strength on top of the normal everyday activities. These additions to my schedule along with the extra practices would take this conversation one way… I quickly beat him to the punch and said “I know how you feel and I will do my best to lessen the manual labor during my daily activities. I will make sure I rest and eat properly.”

All of this to say…I knew my husband was doing this out of love. He is not a very nurturing type of personality…but he has his days. I have learned to see through the cracking of jokes and see his fear and concern. I have learned to hear the undertones in his conversation and the read between the lines. This intervention of sorts came from his heart. I know he could not live without me…
“Who would take care of the dry-cleaning and fixing of meals and…” (insert laughter here)

When I turned my phone on for the first time I did notice the unbridled worry from three of my BFFs. Let me say to them…”I am sorry I could not reply as I should have!” I respected the time my husband set aside for us and did not take time away from us. I know you were worried and apologize to you now and more personally in a little while. The fact that they checked on my absence is one of “The Best Things in Life!” “Thank You!”

The small amount of time together with those we love and hold dear are precious. The smile in passing may turn someone’s day completely around. The pat on the back and holding of doors are often seen as nothing but nice manners. I love the line in the movie “While You Were Sleeping” when the characters are talking about doing for others. The topic of giving up a seat and letting a woman sit down may have seemed trivial but not to the woman able to sit down. We never know who will be touched by the little things we do. A kind word, a helping hand, a smile may be just little things but, when done with a loving heart they are priceless. Nothing is ever small! It doesn’t matter if they are close to us or someone we may not know…it is just a way to share “The Best Things in Life”.

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Peach State

Peach State says: Happy New Year! Really?

                                                                Here it is, December 31, 2011 and tomorrow will be a whole New Year.  2012!!!!

With all the promises we make to ourselves to lose weight, be kind to others, get a better job, find a job…it is amazing we have time to focus on the real issues at hand.   Our family, friends, church, and community need to be visualized in every New Year’s Resolution.  Don’t get me wrong….the resolutions listed, previously, could all be focused on those around us everyday.

My approach to life changed when I dropped over 100 pounds and I was told I had a different personality.  It was a good change for the most part and I was excited to be with people and found myself walking more.  I do get aggravated with myself because I have not lost anymore and have found that, even though I have plateaued, I did gain a few pounds back.  In my defense, I was sick and then I fell, both kept me from walking.  I recovered and the city was renovating the walking track where I walk.  I got depressed by these situations, and others that plagued my mere existence,  and the weight slowly crept back.  I do not have a vehicle to get to the track now because my husband uses it to drive back and forth to work.  I know what you are thinking,  walk when he gets home…. “I can’t!”  He leaves at 7:30 every morning and comes home about 8:00 every night.  Sometimes he doesn’t get home until closer to 10:00!  The friends that I have who walk live to far away or are unable to keep up with my pace.  I walked three times with a friend who was training for a 5K and participates in a exercise class twice a week.  I could not force myself to slow down to her pace.  I find a rhythm and move not socialize.  The strolling type of walking is not for me!  I love to put my headphones on and select the beat driven songs on my iTunes play-list.  I even downloaded some military cadences that I had started using to shuffle jog instead of just walking.  I know that I will start walking this next year and the weight will come off again.  I can’t wait!!!!

Facing our reality and making the best of it should be the universal New Year’s Resolution.  We would all win in the long-term!  We should be thankful for what we have and not regret what we never received or had.  I speak from experience when I say “My husband deserves more money from his employer!”  but…I can say “Yea! my husband is employed!!!! We went for close to four years with no income and insurance.  We are a stronger family unit because of this experience and have had many obstacles invade our ranks.  Baby steps, One Day at a Time, Put One Foot in Front of the Other….all good advice for the upcoming year.

We really have been very lucky and fortunate to have managed this trial the way we did.  Things could have been a lot worse.  People suffer daily and lose their homes and livelihood.  Sickness and death break families financially and emotionally.  We have stayed in our home and have managed to pay the bills.  My husband creatively paid off credit cards and lowered our monthly expenditures.  Needless to say, we will head into this New Year with less going out of our pocket and lessons learned on surviving with less $$$.  This is a very good start to our New Year.  We have had a few regrets and wish things could have been resolved quicker.  They had to be placed on the back burner to keep warm while constantly stirring the pot up front to stay afloat.  These decisions influence those around us in ways we may never know.  I have been fortunate to see and hear how my life had influenced those around me in a positive manner.  I strive daily to help others as they face their walk on hot coals.  Only by not focusing on ourselves do we see what life altering events are happening to those around us.  We can offer support and help in many ways.

Tonight we will countdown to a New Year and celebrate the possibilities that lie ahead of us.  Make this a year to remember!  Take time to help others and you will be helping yourself.  Celebrate time with family and friends and make memories to last a lifetime.  Time really does fly and this New Year will quickly be replaced by another New Year.  This New Year will be what we make it….so…..

Happy New Year!  REALLY!!!

Peach State says: It is a Blah Day

Hey cuz,

Not much to speak of this morning due to my trip to Bethlehem was canceled last due to a Christmas Party.

It was Jon’s first Christmas Party in years and the whole family was invited.  That sentence should tell you what our night was like.  The party was being held about an hour away and started at 6PM. Getting ready to leave with the boys was quite the undertaking and felt like an Act of Congress just to get into the car.  Once in the car, with 4 drivers, we set our course and started the drive.  Fortunately the traffic was at a minimum until we were within 10 miles of the party location.

With Jon being the new guy and, at the time we arrived, still working at the Dealership the boys and I took our time going in.  Once in we approached the service counter and let them know the company we were associated with.  They gave us our instructions and the boys gave the sizes for their bowling shoes.  This place had it all…bowling, arcade, laser tag, and bumper cars.  The boys bowled a couple of games and it was fun to watch.  After the two games I let them go to the arcade with the cards provided at the desk.  They had just started to play when Jon arrived.  We watched the boys for a few minutes then gathered them together to go stand in the buffet line.  The boys finished and returned to the gaming area while Jon and I talked and a couple of introductions were made.

The rest of the evening Jon and I played and cashed in the tickets and made the token choices at the redemption counter.  We left about 9:10 and arrived home close to 10.  Needless to say the ride home with number 1 son and number 4 son, in the car, was interesting and active to say the least.  Jacob was so wired and overly tired that the silliness just burst out of him.  Oh What Fun!!! NOT!

We settled in and everyone went to their respective places and the rest of the evening was same old-same old.  I am hoping the weather will be over in time for my scheduled return to Bethlehem tonight.  I really missed being in the city last night.  Then I can finish the previous blog “Tis The Season Part 1”.

Hope your outlook on life is better today than on Monday.  I am here if you need to scream or yell.  I can even add a debate or two at no cost to you.  HEHE!

D.L.

Heart of Dixie says . . . Inanimate Love

“It’s just stuff.”  That’s what we say when a house burns or a car wrecks.  Thank goodness everyone is fine.  The tornado took it all, but it was all just stuff anyway.  And that’s true.  We shouldn’t love inanimate things.  Today my parents had to put down their dog who had pancreatic cancer, making today’s observation all the more trivial  But I’m feeling it – quite strongly in fact – so I’m going to share.

I am comforted by my sofa, the Asian overtones that speak to my time in Hawai’i without knocking you down with a tropical theme.  I am comforted by my little green chair in the corner.  It didn’t look cute where it was before.  It matches the sofa…it wanted to be near the sofa to realize it’s full cuteness potential.  I look at these items that were in different places and are now brought together under one roof.  They look so happy together.  In fact they look like parts of me.  The roof they are under is not mine.  Yet they still comfort me.

And I long for my Mema’s dining room suite.  It’s sitting in a basement covered with sheets.  I want to display her red crystal goblets, but they are in a box in yet another basement.  I want her piano – not because I play, but because it is part of me and of my blogging cuz, and of all of us, and it deserves to be preserved and loved.  It is not in a place where it is loved, but it is sheltered from the elements, and for that I am grateful.

It’s just stuff.  But it’s stuff that is part of me.  If I lost it in a tornado like so many did last April right here in my own state, I would comfort myself that it’s just stuff.  But looking at it makes me so happy.  I feel complete.  Kind of like I feel when I’m with my family.  Kind of like I feel when I’m with my kids.  Kind of like I feel when I’m with Southern Man. I appreciate him babysitting my furniture.  It’s good to see it all together.  I wonder if he realizes that his house is starting to look like my house?

Back to reality.  Compared to the dog that has comforted you for years and years, furniture is so trivial, unless it belong to someone else – your mother or grandmother who comforted you as well.  It’s trivial, but I believe that if we are honest with ourselves, we would find that there are inanimate loves that comfort us all.