What Happened To Relaxing?
The irritating chore bug bit me yesterday…
It was one of those days where my ADHD was in full swing as I started gathering the overwhelming amount of wire coat-hangers from the closet…
I could hang up clothes…
This could be washed…
Start the laundry…
I should get the plastic dry-cleaners bags and take them to the garbage can before the garbage is picked up…
I should run these bathroom rugs down and wash them…
I can clean the bathroom floor…
Why don’t I clean the bathroom counter and put things away…
Wow, I should put my short clothes in the bottom rack….
Well you get the idea! It was not pretty, especially when you consider the other normal chores throughout the rest of the house. I found myself sitting down about 4 PM and realizing the items not completed on my To-Do list! You know what that means…I have more To-Do today! “I am so thrilled…NOT!” Oh! Remember when I said there would be one more practice for Christmas Eve music…make that three! And that is not counting the different groups…Ladies Quartet, Ladies Trio ( which is the Ladies Quartet minus one who will with family Christmas Eve), Mixed Quartet and the Mixed Ensemble. Fortunately the Ladies Quartet is singing Sunday morning and the others will be Christmas Eve! That means at 5:15, or there abouts, the musical performance portion of my holiday season will be over and I will be free to…COOK! But that is another post!!!!
This is the last week of school and my 20 year old is helping my parents for the next week. So with a quiet and empty house I shall begin my day! “Who am I kidding?” I have already folded the clothes from the dryer and put the breakfast dishes in the dishwasher and started it. I need to wrap 10 more presents for my hubby’s office staff and then get ready to head out for one of those practices at 10:00 am. Who knows…maybe I could-just-possibly-if-I-time-it-right manage to relax before the youngest gets home!
Looks like my ADHD is alive and functioning today as well….”Lucky Me!”
“May your cup runneth over with joy, love and laughter oh, and really fabulous coffee!”
Okay, my mind is pretty much multi-tasking on it’s own today. I must admit…it is a bit exciting to experience this type of speed and thought process this early in the morning. And no!…I have not overloaded myself with Red Bulls or Espresso Shots!
ADHD Brain In Overdrive!
I was surfing the web, while waiting for my youngest to make his exit for school, for updates on the 2014 VBS. One thing led to another and my mind almost exploded. A Tug-of-War between my organizational hemisphere and my creative hemisphere began as thoughts and ideas exploded faster than I could keep up!
I decided to take a few minutes, before continuing, to let you in on my out of control Brain.. With the workout my brain is getting I wish it could result in burning outrageous amounts of calories. Even “Precious Princess” has wandered around and around and has just now…laid down on the floor at my feet. Oh how I wish I could bottle this and save it for those I’m-too-lazy-to-do-anything-days! You would think I raided the Halloween Candy Stash…but that is not the case. “How do I know?…I haven’t bought my Halloween Candy yet!”
“OOO, another idea!”
I had better grab some more notebook paper and another divider, labeled ideas, for my VBS Notebook! ( …and another pile of papers for the other abstract thoughts and ideas running through my head!)
“May your cup runneth over with joy, love and laughter oh, and really fabulous coffee!”
The continuous deluge of rainy weather have finally ceased…leaving us with a new battle of sorts!
Flies, Flies, Flies…all over the place…Did I say Flies?
Have no fear…“Have Fly Swatter Will Travel!”
My family has been smoking/ cooking out, since about Father’s Day, and the invading-swarming-trash-heaps have really interrupted our little piece of the world. The dive-bombing routines convince me that these invaders are also severely ADHD! It seems there is a correlation between “Life-span of a fly” and “ADHD”…you see they exist for such a short period of time they must find a way to see and do everything. After all it is a big world…especially to a fly! You would think that with all those eyes they could take in more of their surroundings…I would just get sick and throw up.
I have to chuckle at the amount of people who have armed themselves with the flimsy-fly-trap-device. They should be made available to visitors so they can assist homeowners in their extermination of the buzzing-pestilence. I remember my mother always had several hanging by the doors for just that reason. “I guess you could use them as a fan of sorts.”
I need to apologize for the grotesque topic…you can relax now and go back to drinking you “Heavenly Brew”. “Ahh…that is so much better!”
“May your cup runneth over with joy, love and laughter oh, and really fabulous coffee!”
My day started 30 minutes earlier today thanks to the Boss-ordered-monthly-meeting at hubby’s work. But…as you probably have guessed…”Knowing me the way you do!”… I was already awake due to the dawn-splitting-door-chime as my son left for his routine workout. The typical restlessness throughout the night, due to one thing or another, as the clock moved in it’s steady march of time delayed my springing to action as the alarm clock completed it’s mission. It is going to be a wonderful, exciting day filled with anticipated extras carefully orchestrated into the regular busy routine! [Sorry for the sarcastic tone!]
Yep…there will be a need to hydrating today especially seeings how Monday’s Call For Coffee!
On the schedule we have:
Hubby out the door 45 minutes early.
Youngest doctor appointment at 9 am.
Drop off prescriptions to be filled.
Take youngest to school.
Regroup and contemplate my MRI at 1 pm.
Organize transportation for my 19 year old son’s test at 3 pm
Leave for MRI at 12:15-12:30.
Come home and fix dinner…to be served about 4:15 to youngest.
Pick up prescriptions.
TKD at 5 pm.
Drive to church for Basketball.
Basketball at 7 pm.
Leave for home and off to bed for youngest at 8:30 pm.
Make sure second pot of coffee is made before hubby gets home about 9 pm.
I will need more than two hands today…my hands will be busy hold the two cups of coffee I will crazily be drinking from. BUT…I can do this…it is just a few things thrown into the usual chaotic Monday schedule!
I hope you find time to complete what needs to be done. Have a great day!
With the events of the past week weighing heavily on my, already sore, shoulders I look like I am bent over using a walker. Of course this is not how I look but boy…do I feel like it! I am trying to find something positive in this burdensome basket of negative. I was taught to Always look for the Silver Lining but… I Lost My Silver Lining!
Here is a sample of this weeks events:
My oldest son came home.
My youngest decided to cut teachers notes about behavior out of his agenda.
The clash between the older boys.
Job hunting for oldest son.
2 1/2 weeks worth of pages fell out of my youngest’s school agenda.
Conduct marks for his negative behavior at school.
I need more coffee!!!
Oh…and on top of all of these wonderful-parent-child-memory-building events I lost my voice because of allergies and my doctor pulled a MRI out of the proverbial What’s Wrong With Peach State Hat…
Did I mention I need more coffee?
Sorry…I seem to be waiting on my cabana boy to serve my coffee to me. Back to reality! I refilled my cup and said goodbye to my hubby…even took my precious princess outside for a second time… I have a few more minutes before the next wave of activity hits the fan and I put on my chauffeur hat. “I just hope I have enough gas in the car without raiding the depleted bank account!”
The dynamics between the three older boys have always been of a 2 against 1mentality. Unfortunately the oldest is the 1 the my 22 and 19 year olds are the tag-team. My oldest has made his share of mistakes and says he wants to get out of the hole he has dug for himself. “Egg-shells, thin ice…just the way things are with him.”
My youngest…Mr. ADHD…has decided to deceive his parents. Well he thinks he is…but is he in for a rude awakening. Basically he thought by taking the pages out that we would not find out about the notes from his teachers.
Everything I need as an adult I learned in Kindergarten!
Page numbers missing…changed dates…altered letters on teacher’s notes…pictures drawn over teacher’s notes…top of pages cut out of book…well, that is just a few of the things he has done this week. I have not mentioned the behavior that prompted the writing of the notes. Yep…I guess I fell off the Turnip Truck! I would scream for help…but I would probably lose what voice I do have.
So…positives from the negatives…
I know all my children are safe and secure.
My youngest was not arrested at school for his behavior…yet!
My oldest is looking for a job!
My other two sons are working.
My voice is coming back…which is a good thing seeings how I am on the trio that is singing Sunday!
My coffee Is wonderful!
Alright…so maybe I just lost sight of My Silver Lining! It is still there…I just needed to look at things from a different angle. You know how that is…don’t you? I am off to prepare for my day…hoping to minimize my talking to allow for healing. Make sure you finish you coffee (or tea) while finding your Silver Lining and Have a great day!
My son has completed his segment of Belt Testing….
I have been to many Testings and this one was definitely different. “But let’s not go there!” The results and presentation of new belts will be Monday so….Now We Wait!
We will be going back after lunch for pictures and an autograph session with the Grand Master who was a Special Judge for the testing. “It would sure be nice if I could be given a hint whether my son passed before Monday.”
I will keep you posted. Have a great day!
There was a day when, as a child, I wanted to know why there was such a big hype about coffee. My parents called it theirs…”Could you grab my coffee?…Could you warm up my coffee?” What was so special? So I asked and was told it was for grown-ups. “But why?” I asked and each time the response was the same…”Because I said so! This Is Not For You!”
I am so glad I grew up…because I love my coffee! I repeat the same requests, when the boys are around, for a warm up or re-zap of my coffee. I smile, inside, as I channel my elders in this you-do-it-I-don’t-want-to-get-up mentality.
The other day, while packing for our trip, my youngest was sent downstairs for some baggies. (zip-lock baggies are a must when traveling.). He took a little while to return and when he came waltzing in to my room he carried with him a fragrance familiar to my sensitive nasal receptors. “What took so long Bud?” He said he could not find the baggies. “But you found them…thank you!”. The scent was lingering…and for a split second I thought I may have spilled some coffee on my shirt. “Hey Bud…come here a second.”. He slowly turned with that I-did-not-do-it look on his face. “What did you get into downstairs?” “Nothing!”. I stepped closer and the distinct aroma triggered my senses. “I smell coffee! Did you drink some coffee?” He swore up and down that no coffee passed over his lips and that he knew he was not supposed to drink it. “Do you know why you are not supposed to drink coffee?” The hamsters were furiously running on the wheel in his head. He struggled to find a suitable response. “Uh…I don’t know!” Oops! Epic Fail!
Sooo…he could not tell me why he shouldn’t drink coffee and as a loving mother I wanted to help him understand…clearly! I went downstairs, as he followed, and poured a cup of coffee and handed the cup to him. He refused it the first time but with further urging he began the steady sipping of the coffee. I began to tell him how parents try and help their children by watching what they eat and drink to keep them safe. There are just certain things that your little body cannot tolerate in any dose much less large doses. Things like candy, cokes, pastries, and caffeine. Now add in the fact that you are ADHD. “The coffee was beginning to turn his stomach and the faces he was making were filled with struggle.” I began my “Lecture #236” What Sugar and Caffeine do in the body.
When I finished he asked if he could stop drinking and I said yes. I told him that he would have to work very hard to control himself. It was at this point he turned around with a quizzical look, only a child can have, and asked me a final question. “I never knew all of that…I just wanted to see what it tasted like because you said no!” I chuckled and replied ” I never said no…I said “Because I said so!” because you should realize that there are just certain things I know that your don’t.”
Long story short…he had drank the rest of my hubby’s latte’ before returning upstairs. The over-active mind and body of this 11 year old was launched into overdrive with this stimulant coursing through his little body. He did work very hard to control himself and for the most part was well behaved the entire day. The good news is that he learned a lesson. He said he was sorry and that it would never happen again!”
He doesn’t like having the shakes and the coffee made him really shake. He was hesitant to even re-fill my cup. At least I know he won’t be drinking coffee again for a while. As for me…it is Coffee Time!
Gone are the days of consistency in schedules. Gone are the days doing homework at the kitchen table and the endless questions from a 5th Grader fishing for the easy solution. It is the last week of school in our county and the anticipation, mixed with fevered chaos, has spread from the youngest to the oldest of students. Countdowns are on every calendar…4 More Days!
Last week, while working with my teacher friend in her classroom, I was witness to the changing of the numbers. A school staff member walked into a lively cafeteria and stood in front of the over-sized countdown on the wall. Taking down the old number…10… and replacing it with the first single digit…9 day left. The whispers began to change quickly as he stepped away revealing the remaining days of school. The children’s excitement grew as the staff in the cafeteria began trying to quiet the to-be-expected emotion.
My neighbor is a teacher and I enjoy the countdown conversations we have…he is as excited as the kids are at the end of school…but the tiny black storm cloud of impending doom will soon hang over his head as he, and every other teacher, start the Back To School countdown.
Anyway…I received an email from my youngest’s teacher yesterday about his behavior. “This is a daily occurrence and is often filled with bad choices and conduct reports!” She tried to be a positive as she could be…This is the email:
As expected…he had a rough morning but was quick to tell everyone he had not had his medicine. By the afternoon he began to level out in his behavior. This will be a hard week for him with the anxious chaos filling the school. He will be re-taking the Math Test on Wednesday! “I love this next statement!” 4 More Days!
I am not sure if she is counting down till Summer or days until my son is gone. Let us hope that it anticipation of Summer!
For those of you who may not be avid followers of my blog…my son is a unique spirit that chooses to bounce like a Tigger instead of controlling himself. He gets frustrated very easily and his anger will explode into shouting matches and desk throwing. “The throwing of desks happened in third grade…and all parties involved had never seen a child act this way in school.” Having this young boy in our home for the past 4 almost 5 years has been like a test…with no Study Guide available.
With 4 More Days till Summer my husband and I have started considering some-type of vacation during the summer. “This is the first time, in almost 4 years, that we could entertain the thought of leaving the house.” So with my husband working and his desire to not sit at home doing nothing we will make some plans. It will be a new experience for us with 2 of our sons working full time and our oldest living across the state. We opened the floor for suggestions…”Hey Bud…where would you like to go this Summer?”
Here is the list:
White Water Rafting
Scuba Diving and
My husband and I looked at each other and asked him why he chose these activities. He responded very quickly with…”I thought I should have my own Bucket List.” There was no mention of Six Flags or Disney and Universal Studios…no desire to visit any amusement type park…We were blown away!
So I sit here writing as the house is quietly beginning it’s day. The school buses hum through the neighborhood and deliver the huddled masses yearning to be free! My husband has left for his short day leading up to his day off tomorrow. One son is off today and will fill his time with yard work…”I hate weeds!” I am waiting to hear from my teacher friend to see if she needs help today…4More Days! Sleeping in…relaxed schedules…
If it sounds to good to be true…It Is! Vacation Bible School planning and decorating next week leading up to a week of deliberate chaos. So for now I will hold closely the activity coming on the horizon…a family trip to the movies…Men In Black 3…and cherish the thought that I may actually get to my beloved Beach House this summer. Well…a beach trip is being planned!
What will fill your days of summer? Will you find time with family and friends…days at the beach and amusement parks? Let me know…I may need some more suggestions to replace the sky diving! Till then..4 More Days!. Have a great day!