Peach State says: The Real Person Behind the Mask!

We wear a smile and laugh with those around us. We encourage others to follow their dreams and build up their spirits. We help, when we can, in ways no one will notice. We have loving and wonderful friends but,“The Real Person Behind the Mask” is struggling.

I was taught, at an early age, the art of the “Baptist Smile”! This is a broad, face filling grin put on around church people. It comes quite easily to my face and most people don’t even notice it is a mask. “We all wear masks of one sort or another.” The reasons for wearing the mask are as varied as those wearing them. Basically hiding the real you inside or protecting yourself from emotional scaring. We build walls around ourselves to prevent revealing our faults and weaknesses. We use our personality strengths wisely to avoid suspicion. “Or do we use our strengths openly so that the injured spirit we hide away is never seen!”.

How do you stop being organized when that is a strength that is appreciated by others?
“The Real Person Behind the Mask is confused!

Our emotions are worn in different ways…those close to us may pick up the vibe and know something is wrong. Migraine pain can be seen in the eyes, red nose means allergies or cold…runny makeup comes from tears…or in my case- bad application. The range of emotions are written on our face and how we carry ourselves. The sad thing is most people just don’t see it. You can be in a very happy mood and wearing a frown. “My glasses need to be updated and my vision is blurry.” “The Real Person Behind the Mask” has needs.

I am not one of those personalities that need to be the center of attention. I like being in a group but not the center. I do not want the responsibility or pressure that comes from this role. I know my limitations! Small circle of friends and even a smaller group that know me without the mask. I feel secure with this wonderful group and appreciate the mutual encouragement that we share. As the circle of friends grows we develop a closeness with the core while maintaining the mask for the others. “What they don’t know won’t hurt them!” They have no clue what battle scars you cover with your mask. These battle scars can make you stronger and not everyone needs to know. Advertising the battles we have been involved with is not a personality trait I admire. Everyone struggles with battles daily…from economic to health, each individually difficult and trying. We do not want to be judged on the battles we have and we are afraid. strong>“The Real Person Behind the Mask” is not the person you think they are.

The mask is there for many reasons…protection from future injury, embarrassment, security. Maybe the mask is there to push the limits…taking the personality behind the mask to the next level in achievement, lending strength to the wearer. “The Real Person Behind the Mask” is misunderstood. Our fears and anxieties become lessened as our strengths are allowed to surface and be used. But if our strengths are challenged the insecure emotions rise and we will retreat further behind the mask. Each of us have different aspects of ourselves that we don’t like…truths that we don’t share with just anyone. The way we handle this flaw determines the type of person we really are. Some wear these personality flaws on their sleeves for attention and can act like a “martyr” while others hold those flaws in trying to improve themselves. “You can’t judge a book by it’s cover!” We must not assume we understand the situation or the person…“The Real Person Behind the Mask” is strong and intellectually deep.

Just like learning to ride a bike or tying your shoes…it takes practice. We practice daily to conquer those imperfections we battle. Habitual successes and failures only make us stronger. We have to trust ourselves and those closest to us. The life experiences we gain make us stronger…stronger than we sometimes know. When we share ourselves with those around us…there is a reason. They may be in the same type of battle or be headed down the same path. Our experience and knowledge can help them and in addition heal us. It gives us strength over the situation allowing us to move to the next challenge. The Real Person Behind the Mask is a compassionate warrior. What a contradiction of terms…sharing, loving, guiding, strong, capable…the strongest warrior has a loving heart.

“The Real Person Behind the Mask is a work in progress! Over time the need for our mask will diminish. We will become confident in our strengths and our inadequacies will fade to a tolerable level. We must strive to rise, leaving the chains of these failures and fears lying on the ground, confident in the strength gained through these battles. Lessons learned must be built upon and made stronger so that the mask is not seen…just the real person!

We all fight the same battles…some just have better weapons to fight with! We can all learn from each other and help each other…if we are willing to shed our mask. Unfortunately the human race is a judgement based species and the struggles continue behind the masks! So…“The Real Person Behind the Mask” knows something you may not know…You are wearing a mask too! We all do!

Peach State

About justbetweencousins

We are first cousins who live farther apart from each other than we would like. We thought this blog would give us a chance to visit with each other as well as maybe share a few insights about life. We are both middle aged and until recently both of us had kids the same age (nearly grown). But then the Peach State cuz adopted a son, so she has four now. Heart of Dixie cuz has two daughters. We have a couple of things which are prominently in common (although I'm sure there are actually more): We vacation at our Mema's beach house in Panama City Beach, Florida - until recently, we did so with all of our kids. We both sing - although Heart of Dixie cuz is not currently singing anywhere right now. We both write. We are both Christians, although Peach State cuz is Baptist, and Heart of Dixie is currently floating about between the Anglican church, the Methodist church, and the Episcopalian church. Long story.

Posted on March 1, 2012, in About me, faith, family, Just Between Cousins, music, musings, my life, parenting, Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. The mask. Yes, I think you revealed a lot of what is behind it. Ironic how quickly we don the mask when we know that we have to put on our best face! But also, as ironically we don’t know the person behind the mask as well as we might think. Yet, there is One who sees us as we are, and loves us dispite what He sees. And it is ONLY He who can love us without the mask. He provided the true covering for us, which when we put on that covering, causes Him to see us like He made us to be! One day, the work in progress will be completed! One day there will be no more sorrow, no more pain…and NO MORE MASKS!

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